When we are young, we often don’t see many examples of single people in their 30s, 40s, and beyond who are actively trying to date. We are taught that marriage usually happens sometime in your 20s, maybe in your early 30s if you are really taking things slow. Sometimes adults in our lives get divorced, but they almost always remarry. There is the occasional family friend or aunt who stays perpetually single but as a child, you don’t really think about what that means, because no one really talks to young people about dating and relationships. No one talks about…
“It just adds such a weight to everything related to dating. You not only have to have the regular levels of trust that someone isn’t going to intentionally physically harm you, you now also have to trust they aren’t going to intentionally or unintentionally infect you with a deadly disease. You have to believe what they say about their habits. You have to build such a trust and rapport with someone to even meet them in person, and that just didn’t exist before. And when it ends like this, it makes me wonder if that trust was misplaced. …
Over the last year, much of my free time has been spent writing my dissertation, defending my dissertation, and celebrating being done with my doctorate. During this time, I have experienced all range of emotions, as anyone going through this process has. Frustration, exhaustion, excitement, sadness, happiness; you name it, I felt it. But ultimately, I have felt pride. Pride in the fact that I finished a doctorate program in three years while working full time. Pride in the fact that at the beginning of my program a professor said to us, “Whatever you do, do not change anything about…
I check my mail this morning, hurriedly flipping through the junk envelopes in search of something I am expecting. I stop abruptly on one. It’s from my internet company.
Your two-year contract is expiring soon. Contact us now to renew!
Two years?! How is that possible? I started this contract when I moved out of my house with my ex. The guy I thought I’d marry. Has it really been almost two years since I moved? I don’t know the exact date of our breakup. I have never been one to memorialize big dates in my mind, good or bad…
Disclaimer: This post is inspired by a recent twitter issue where a man went on 3 dates with a fat women he knew he wasn’t attracted to, originally under the guise of “trying to give someone a chance,” which is admirable, but later he admitted that he was put off by their second date and only went on the third “because he wanted to get to 3.” It became clear that he only was going on the dates for his own confidence boost and not because he thought he might be able to become interested in this girl. It got…
Last year, I wrote about how a year on dating apps brought me more friends than dates. I talked about how I’d met all these people through Twitter, and how even though most of us hadn’t really “met,” yet, how it was a new type of friendship and how it was the best thing to come out of my newly single life.
Now, we are almost a year later (the fact that I’ve been single for almost two years and have yet to get past a second date is a depressing story for another day) and I have met a…
Lately I’ve seen a lot of negativity on Twitter surrounding the use of dating apps. Don’t get me wrong, dating apps have a lot of problems. And the app companies themselves, with the exception of maybe Bumble, don’t do enough to combat the issues that people in general, but especially women, face on them. …
If you consider yourself a liberal and have ever talked about politics online, you have probably at some point been referred to as a Social Justice Warrior, or an SJW. I’ve been called it plenty of times — both to my face, and behind my back. I’ve always had some questions about why people use this term and what exactly they intend to accomplish with it, but I was reminded of my ongoing confusion over this term when I recently saw a blog mention being annoyed by people in the dating scene who are into “social justice crap.” …
I never realized how bad people are at conversation until I started using dating apps. I have always considered myself pretty decent at conversation — I am sure there are some people who find me awkward, or just aren’t a fan of mine for whatever reason. But, for the most part, I consider myself someone who can talk about a variety of subjects, with a variety of people. I never realized how much “like attracts like” in that I am often surrounded by people who are similarly skilled at conversing. …
Lately, I’ve been seeing a very concerning trend on social media, particularly Twitter. A seemingly increasing number of single people (mostly women, but sometimes men too) seem to think that being in a relationship will solve all of their problems and automatically improve their life. I’ve seen this mentality range from people all across the spectrum of past relationship experience — from people who have never been in a serious relationship, to people who have been in one serious relationship, to people who have been in many.
So, this seems like a good time to talk about something that I…
Sarah
Lover of dogs, food, coffee, bourbon, and exploring new places.
